Something For The Guys…..
When I was much younger and I hear the word “Lady” what came to my mind then was a beautiful, sexy and appealing female. That’s was what I expected, and anything that fell short from that affected my orientation about that lady. Which led to my becoming prejudice in my dealings with them.
But as I grew older and I started to relate with many ladies both the drop dead gorgeous ones and the not so pretty ones, I discovered that there was more that meets the eyes. When I was younger my yardstick for my ideal lady was only limited to appearance. I felt that was the only thing that mattered and other major factors like outward behavior and character were automatic, so I didn’t see it as a determinant but an expectation that I believe should come naturally.
I am not implying that beauty in all endowment shouldn’t be a determinant, what I am trying to point out is that beauty should not be the only determinant. You see, beauty can wash away the very minute your happiness is compromised, you’d forget she was that awesomely beautiful damsel and you will then begin to see something else.
Let’s put it this way perception vs interaction. Before you allow your self to be swept head over heels by a lady make sure you would have interacted with her and be certain you can coexist with her shortcomings. Otherwise your search will continue until you just get fed up and settle with a home breaker rather than a home maker.
Take a cue from most blind people: Don’t rely too much on your eyes, they are other senses that you can use for perception.